Why Always The Hate?

I was watching some YouTube videos the other day, and it is shocking the amount of hate that comes in the way of comments. Rather than accept that people have an opinion and that’s what makes humanity diverse and a good race able to adapt and get along.

One was a trailer for a game. Some people didn’t like the game, others did. Rather than “I don’t like this game, so I’m going to leave it“, the response is “This game is the worst thing ever and anyone who likes it is just a stupid little child“, and the response from people who like the game is “how dare you say anything bad about this game! You should go off and drop dead“.

There are comments of “The introduction movie isn’t how the game is, people should sue the company for false advertising“.

All games have a cinematic trailer for the game that is not actual in-game footage. Some people will say that a space simulator is wrong because of the sound of guns in space, but will play Call of Duty or something like that and get headshots without having to take in the Coriolis effect. (This is the curve of the earth and takes into account the drop of the bullet on its way to the target due to the angle and the wind factor and magnetism of the planet).

Some people will complain that a Call of Duty game is not realistic as you can get shot in the arm and just hide to feel better, while playing a driving game, ram something at over 200mph and just back up and drive off.

Everyone likes different things. The same with films. Just because someone doesn’t like the Transformers films doesn’t mean no one else is allowed to like them.

I don’t like the Transformers films – I’ll buy them for my son though. I’m not good at fighting games like Mortal Kombat and Street Fighter. It doesn’t make them the worst games ever.

Just because I can’t do headshots on Call of Duty, Battlefield, Overwatch or games like that, it doesn’t mean the controls are all wrong and the company should do something about it, It just means I’m not that good at them.

People need to see that their opinion is not the only one that matters in this world. There are other people who feel and think differently.

Whatever happened to “Whatever floats your boat” or “Hate that game, let me know when you’ve finished“.

There is too much hate and confrontation in the world now. Everyone needs a chill pill and a time out in the naughty corner. It’s time for acceptance, not dissension. It’s time for smiles, not snarls. It’s time for community, not hate.

We have enough of that with the leaders of countries without the rest of the people sinking to their levels.

Free speech, not hate speech.

45 thoughts on “Why Always The Hate?

  1. Preach! Also one topic of hate that’s like really common : pc gamers vs console gamers. I really don’t see why people need to prove that their platform is better. I mean why can’t we all just enjoy playing different games on different platforms, right ?

    • Pretty much. If there was really a master race, why would some PC gamers be excited about cross-platform. I play xbox because I like it. Other friends play PS3/4 and others play PC. It’s their choice. None of us judge the other (on platforms anyway – games may be different but in jest).

  2. I have noticed on YouTube tutorials where someone is sharing their knowledge on a particular subject and demonstrating a good way to achieve something, there are people criticising them.

    Usually they don’t know how to do it themselves, otherwise what is the point of viewing the tutorial. They just like to make disparaging and insulting comments from a safe distance. It reminds me of car drivers who like tooting their horn at other drivers, when confronted at a closer distance their bravado disappears.

    • That’ pretty much it, and I find it so infuriating. People try to help and other people try to bring them down. If they don’t like it, go somewhere else or stop watching it.

      Thanks for the comment Ronnie

  3. “People need to see that their opinion is not the only one that matters in this world. There are other people who feel and think differently..” opinions should in the light of new evidence not remain same

  4. The comments on popular YouTube videos are awful. Especially the comments with 57 replies, there is bound to be some disagreement and arguing within that thread. It kind of sucks to realize the YouTube community is getting worse and worse.

    • It is. I used to read the comments because of the humour that would be in there. Now there is just spite and hate.

  5. It’s so true Al on how people become so intolerant on social media, be it sports, films or books. It’s like opinion makers have shifted from the newsroom to social media. It’s one of the reasons why I chose to stay away from social media for six months and refrain myself from posting controversial. Don’t wanna be dragged in pointless rants which is so stupid and juvenile:)

    • It is, and it’s also one of the reasons I walked away from Facebook last year. If people can’t see the hurt they inflict then it doesn’t happen. Unfortunately that is worse than just saying because it stays there.

      People with opinions that they want to force down people’s throats don’t tend to see beyond their own egos.

  6. You bring up great points, Al. I don’t think it’s wrong for people to say why they prefer or like but I do think they need to watch what they write and the tone they are coming across in. It’s no different than if you were talking to a person. Some people take the relative anonymity of comments and well they’re ‘trolls’ and write hateful, disrespectful, and stupid things b/c they are not talking to a person face to face. Also many people do not realize the difference between hurtful/negative criticism or constructive criticism. And they don’t realize that being constructively critical is as important online for a video game or movie (etc.) as it is for a person in their class giving an oral report or someone at work who ahead an idea. I do like the transformers movies. The first three I think are the best. I just saw the 4th with Mark Walburg in it and actually was impressed the story was still good but I missed the original characters. I have to watch the 5th movie on Netflix and I heard the newest one has come out this weekend. But I’ll wait until it comes Netflix. Cheers!

    • I’ve one seen the first three with Shire The Beef in them. To me they are all the same. But again, an opinion. I have just said on Alejandro’s comment that hiding behind the anonymity allows people to say what they wouldn’t face to face. They don’t see the pain it causes.

      You are right, constructive criticism is a good thing. We all need that at times. What we don’t need is destructive criticism.

  7. I don’t know what brought on this pandemic of hate and cruelty that’s been rampaging across the globe the past few years. Here in the U.S. it’s reached a nauseatingly feverish pitch; most of it directed at politicians. While questioning and condemning the actions of our elected officials has always been a cherished pastime – a true cornerstone of free speech – it’s become unbelievably nasty. Instead of focusing on what they have to offer their fellow citizens, political candidates often start hurtling insults at their opponents. If you expend a great deal of time and energy just criticizing people and pointing out their faults, that says more about your own lackluster persona.

    I believe much of the problem lies with humanity itself, and the fact there are way too many of us. Overcrowding in any society creates stress on natural resources, which in turn, compels even the most congenial of individuals into developing a more defensive mindset. This is why I believe our various art forms – e.g. writing, painting, photography – can serve as positive outlets for all but the most psychotic of people.

    Aside from overcrowding, I feel the breakdown in the family unit hampers the ability to create and sustain healthy communities. And addiction to electronic devices undoubtedly disrupts a people’s ability to interact with others. In the U.S., various studies conducted in recent years where MRI scans are taken of the brains of admitted video game addicts have produced some startling and unsettling results. Those who engage in frequent, uninterrupted digital usage show a near-deadening of the cerebral cortex – an area neurologists consider the center of complex thought. This heavy reliance on our cell phones and laptops is something pessimistic futurists warned about decades ago.

    So, what’s the solution? I can’t (and won’t) speak for others, but for me, it’s simple. I continue to read a variety of things and work on different story ideas that germinate within my mind. A few years ago I happened to catch part of an interview Stevie Nicks (of Fleetwood Mac) gave in which she lamented how cell phones prevent people from engaging in healthy conversations. “I want to spend time with you and talk with you,” she said, without having to hopscotch around a small piece of electronic machinery.

    Family and friends know I’m not a people person. But, when it comes to those I love and care about the most, cell phones and computers will never get between us.

    • I don’t get much (at all in fact) so I have to rely on electronics to communicate with people due to them thinking that when you have a disability you are obviously contagious so don’t come to visit. Or that’s the way I see it anyway.

      I have always preferred to talk to people in person than over the phone as phone calls can go stale almost instantly once you ahve said what you called for. “Happy father’s day dad.” “Thanks son”. “okay, this is now awkward”

      Also, by using media people hide behind their anonymity to spread the hate in a way they wouldn’t if face to face. bYou can say something online and switch off. Whereas saying it face to face, you see their reaction and the hurt it causes.

      • I understand if someone can’t get out to meet people because of health concerns or physical impediments. But remember a while back, Alastair, you had expressed frustration with some kind of date night at a local pub or restaurant and wondered aloud that people might be put off by your cane or glasses. I had said, if they have an issue with those things, then the problem is THEM – not you. Some people don’t have problems; some people are their problem. They just haven’t figured it out yet.

        And yes, Happy Father’s Day, Alastair! I’d love to visit with you, but 7440 km is a bit much to travel on short notice.

    • I agree that hate is reaching an aweful height. It’s so bad that it’s really quite frightening. I hate that people feel the need to be unkind on the internet; it’s completely unnessisary. (That’s one thing I love about WordPress, though, comments seem to be overwhelmingly positive and/or civil.) The problem is that the nasty comments online probably spur people on to mimick or continue it, which fuels the hate we see so much of. I figure that if hateful comments can work this way, so can nice comments. I try my best to leave only positive comments online and I hope they make a difference.

      • One of the reasons my comments are now moderated on a first use is that I had done a post years ago when former Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher died. I stated something along the lines that although she did some very bad things, she did a few good ones as well. Someone commented about this, and the abuse she received was ridiculous. After looking up the abusive person’s blog I realised that he was a racist far right … individual. I had to remove his comment and apologise to the person he had insulted. Her response was heartbreaking. “You don’t need to apologise, I am used to it”.

        I will sometimes give constructive criticism on my Sunday Photo Fiction blog, but I would never give destructive criticism as that never does anyone any good.

        My only hope is, as you say. people write good comments so more people will be nice and maybe the hate will start to recede again.

  8. I totally agree with you. I find it terrible what people write or answer. Everyone has different opinions and one can agree to disagree without being rude or insulting. people don’t accept others opinions that is the problem. Al we need many many chill pills do pass round all these you tube commenters and other people in this world. We need send out love and peace! ♥

  9. Well said! I remember when it was O.K. for people to disagree..and allowed to have their own opinion without rude, crude, vicious, and deadly behavior from those that do not have the same opinion as others.

    • I miss those days. When a flame war was a rare thing that when people mentioned it, others went off to see it. Nowadays you look anywhere and it’s there.

      • You might be aware that, here in the U.S., we had (yet another) public shooting last week; one specifically targeting conservative politicians. Ironically, the gunman bore a leftist mindset and was clearly mentally disturbed. The one politician seriously wounded in the attack has been upgraded to serious, after multiple surgeries. Oddly, he had previously voted AGAINST banning people with documented mental health problems from owning firearms.

        Now, all the right-wing sycophants are calling for unity and cooler heads. I find that hypocritical, considering the level of vitriol they often hurled at our last president, Barack Obama. I stated on Facebook the other day that, in just a matter of days, everything will be back to normal among our elected officials. Meaning they’ll be yelling at one another and smearing people’s reputations. In fact, it’s already begun. I was actually starting to get worried for a minute there. Now it’s business as usual. All of that Kumbaya / We-Are-the-World bullshit didn’t last long!

        • One day, the world will be kumbaya. Unfortunately, I doubt it will be in our lifetime. Unless we are immortal by some stretch, in which case. I hope it is sooner rather than later.

  10. Hi there! I’ve been having this talk with a lot of writers lately and it seems to me that it’s sensationalism and hyperbole that individuals use to try to make their own opinions valid and stand out in the sea of internet opinions, so they say the most extreme thing they can (it’s hard to think of something worse than telling someone they should kill the selves) just to be heard and get recognition. Those coveted “likes” consciously or subconsciously make us feel better about ourselves. I think the internet brings out a lot more of the humanness in us in terms of self-centeredness.

    • I think you’re right. It’s a case of even negative attention is attention and it’s what they want.

      To me, on YouTube videos and things like that, I tend not to comment as I then get inundated on messages being posted afterwards. And the likes aren’t what I go for. When I post a comment, it is usually to add to the conversation not to “feed the trolls”. Unfortunately, a lot of people do play into their hands which starts a flame war which aren’t needed.

      I do agree, with the internet the way it is now, and people streaming all the time what they are doing, and getting responses to it, it gives them the “I want to be a Kardashian” element that they are going for.

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