I was reading someone else’s blog (I won’t say who’s – although I don’t believe they follow mine so most of you will know it’s not you I’m talking about) and I really felt for the author. The person was having problems with an adult child (their kid but over 20) who has – I suppose problems is the only word I can use although I don’t like to say it that way. This person mentioned what their adult/child had been doing, and why a doctor’s appointment was necessary and also why the author needed to get some clean air before having a meltdown. I do feel sorry for her.
What infuriated me was a comment of one of the blog’s followers. This follower, a woman (not judging any woman by her as most are not like this one) stated her daughter has mental and emotional issues that caused her (follower) to have a breakdown. She has to deal with her daughter complaining to her. I thought that’s what parents were for??? We listen to our kids when they complain, and we try to help them! We don’t say that they were the reason we had a breakdown! Even if it was, why tell the world about it?
She then goes on to say that her daughter has got with a man has Asperger’s Syndrome. Only she hasn’t done her homework and has called it something completely different. I googled what she put, and the only thing that came up was “Showing result for Asperger’s syndrome” Apparently he controls her daughter and now she treats the follower like crap. Maybe he opened her eyes as to how her mother felt about her?
She thanks god that her daughter knows she can’t handle kids, and that she is not guilty for the feelings she has.
I could never be like that to my kids. NEVER.
Maybe I am wrong and see things from a narrow view point.
What do you think?
A Mixed Bag 
Mondrak,
We all have our own path to walk, and some are more difficult than others. Blogging is a way to say things you would never, ever say to people in your “real” world, and it helps when others comment and respond to your words. Also, mental illness is often inherited. The difficulty in dealing with a child with a severe mental problem can trigger issues that were dormant in the parent. Please know there is often a much bigger (and deeper) picture than is painted with just a few words in a comment box.
I enjoy your pictures! I am hoping to upgrade to a better camera one day. I like the “photo a day” idea,too.
~Rainey
Thank you Rainey, and I appreciate your view. I never actually looked at it that way.
I think there are deeper issues within the parent here. How the heck does a child cause a parent a breakdown (other than maybe their death). I guess everyone is different & unless it’s us living it – we really don’t know the whole story. But – goodness – get some help to deal with the issues if you aren’t able to handle it on your own. Just my initial opinion….
The thing is sometimes people don’t understand what others are going through until they find themselves in the same situation.
I suppose that’s true. Maybe it’s because I thought of my son at that age and that no matter what he did, I would never blame him for a breakdown
I am thinking as you dear Mondrak… It doesn’t sound good to me too…